Kindness stands out. Often it’s noticeable because I’ve become accustomed to experiencing its adversaries. Anger, hatred, bitterness, greed, contempt, jealousy, and selfishness are on full display all around me. Some days I don’t have to look any further than my own mirror to find them. When I do look beyond myself I see and hear everyone racing to be the first, the best, and the most successful. Slammed doors, angry words, and stolen parking spaces – they aren’t hard to find. Amidst this much noise and darkness, a simple kind act from one human being to another shines brightly and sings sweetly.
I recently witnessed just such an act while out for dinner. A mother and her two daughters were finishing up their meal and took notice of a man sitting alone at the back of the room. I had seen him too. He wasn’t eating, just watching the ballgame on TV. The mother motioned to the man and asked if he would like to have some bread and chicken. “We’re not going to eat it, would you like some?” He looked surprised and then his face softened to a smile. He was hesitant but the woman encouraged him to come and eat. He walked over and joined them, sat down and they all talked for about half an hour. At the end of their time together I couldn’t tell that they had been strangers just minutes before. I was captivated by how simple but powerful this exchange was, and I felt thankful that I was there to witness it.
I thought about why kindness is considered a gift and not just an act. I never spoke a word to these people and had nothing to do with their interaction, but my spirit was lifted and my heart encouraged. I received the gift of a kindness that had nothing to do with me. But the truth is every kindness that I experience has nothing to do with me and everything to do with God. He is the origin of kindness. We are the vessels by which kindness is given and received, if we’re willing. Knowing this truth convicts my sinful heart and nurtures my longing to be more like the heart of God.
Carrie Joy(ful) 